Most superheroes are not great roll models. One of the main reasons for this is that they seldom prioritize family. They all believe they have good reasons for it. But at the end of the day, the world still needs saving and their own personal world is in shambles. That is not where you want to be.
Even Captain America gave it all up to pursue domestic tranquility. He was not wrong. And the world went on just fine without him. So the first lesson we can learn from superheroes is that a savior complex doesn’t result in a saved world. And giving it up doesn’t harm the world. But it does offer you a chance to make yours better.
Superheroes often hide behind secret identities and keep their true passions hidden from the people they love. Real heroes make no secret about who they are and who they love. They want the world to know it. When you marry, don’t do it quietly and away from the public eye. Do it loud and proud. Sparklers for wedding ceremonies and receptions are a good way to make it clear that you are committed to family.
When it is time for that family to include having children, you don’t need to look very hard to find some excellent gender reveal ideas. You are not merely revealing the gender of your child, you are declaring your commitment to your family and to the community of which your family will be a part. It is one thing to say that family is the cornerstone of a community. It is another thing to show it. Saving your family is a very real way to save the community. That is just one reason to prioritize family. Here are a few more:
You Made a Promise
Your children are counting on you to provide for their wants and needs because they are simply not equipped to provide for themselves. When you brought them into the world, you made an implicit vow to take care of them and usher them to an age and maturation point where they can take responsibility for themselves.
It doesn’t stop at 18. Our best research informs us that brains don’t reach maturity until around 25. They might be out of the house with a spouse and family of their own by then. But they still need your guidance whether they know it or not. This is why some of the biggest mistakes we make are in our early 20s. We are old enough to do whatever we like, but undeveloped enough to make really bad decisions without knowing it.
Many parents look forward to their empty nesting. But don’t forget about the kids too quickly. There is a big difference between soaring and merely not crashing to the ground. Be there for your kids well into their mid-twenties and you will not just be setting them up for success, but your grandchildren as well.
They Also Need a Hero
What is the point of being a superhero to the entire world except for your own family? That’s indefensible in any extended universe. If an emergency threatens everyone in your apartment building, it is okay to save your family first. If you abandon your family to danger while running off to save others, you will not be remembered as a hero by anyone. You should prioritize your time, talent, and treasure for your family because they also deserve a hero.
So You’ll Never Walk Alone
You shouldn’t cynically start a family so that you will have someone to take care of you in your old age. But if you nurture your family with wisdom and love, you will have that love returned many times over through every phase of your life. You will never have to walk alone.
The way you become an honored elder is to be a tireless servant who is there for the people you love. A tree you nurture for years will provide fruit and shade for a lifetime. That’s family. And it is worth being a priority.
Not everyone is cut out for the challenge of family. Doing it well is the hardest thing any of us will ever do. But it is more than worth it for real life heroes because you gave your word, because they deserve a hero, and because you will reap much more than you can ever sew.